Mail from Cindy Wilder
Sage -- More later, but for the time being – were you at Michigan in 1980 (I think – last year in the original space) as Sage?? Gray had told me to look for her friend Sage and I found her – my daughter Lara was about 8 at the time and spent a lot of time with (you?).
Did you ever reach Janet?? I was hoping she would see the guestbook and email me, but no luck so far.
I’ve been through quite a few deaths with friends and family – I think it’s been harder to let go of Gray than practically anyone -- I think because I always thought I would see her again, even tho I’ve been on the west coast for 14 years.
Thanks for writing – I’ll share some memories later.
Love, Cindy
Sage -- More later, but for the time being – were you at Michigan in 1980 (I think – last year in the original space) as Sage?? Gray had told me to look for her friend Sage and I found her – my daughter Lara was about 8 at the time and spent a lot of time with (you?).
Did you ever reach Janet?? I was hoping she would see the guestbook and email me, but no luck so far.
I’ve been through quite a few deaths with friends and family – I think it’s been harder to let go of Gray than practically anyone -- I think because I always thought I would see her again, even tho I’ve been on the west coast for 14 years.
Thanks for writing – I’ll share some memories later.
Love, Cindy
posted by sage @ 1:10 PM
1 Comments:
At 1:29 PM,
sage said…
Hi Cindy, Yes! I faintly remember hooking up with you and Lara from "home"...I'd been gone for over a year, and felt very lost until you found me...Lara really liked my camp in that tiny grove of trees, in spite of the many mosquitos. WOW, that seems like another life ago from what? 26 years later. I didn't realize that was the last festival on that land...got a ride back to Pa. with some NewYork women, spent some time with Gray
at Indian Lake, and still owe her bus fare to Ithaka from there...always thought there was time to get back to her with the $80.00, but never made more than minimum wage working in nursing homes...and by the time I finally retired on social security disability, and got online, she was gone. What a dirty rotten trick the Fates have played, huh? I haven't heard from Janet, although I have sent her cards and letters over the years, trying to stay in touch with her Mom. I think I got her on the phone once before she got out of school in Washington, but that was years ago, and I think she told me then that she was going to be a school-teacher. I too, left the East Coast in '93, and had been living a bare-bones existance in a Volkswagon, moving from one unpaid job to another, until I finally qualified for a 'nut check'
2 months after 9.11 happened, and could afford to make an independant home for myself and my dogs, here in the Desert south of Death Valley. The mental health counselor asked me what my biggest problem was and I told her "SEXISM". She knew I wasn't crazy, sent me to a disability lawyer, and here I am on retainer
as an unemployable feminist, making about as much as I ever made punching a time clock. Well, I did the best I could without an affinity/support group, and can say that I never lost the idealism that I learned from Gray and the other
women I knew in NOW. I did do alot of GOOD along the way, helping people who were even more lost than I, and just wish I could have been in touch with Gray again to let her know that I had found some answers that made everything worthwhile. She knew it wasn't gonna be easy. Thanx for writing, Cindy...hearing from you is almost as wonderful as still having Gray around to talk to.
Blessed Be, dear Sister.
luv and peas, Sage
PS... I was horrified when I heard that Flight 93 had crashed at Indian Lake...I still cry when I think of how personally we all were touched on that day.
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